Disenfranchised

So I'm a little disenfranchised with my doctor, again. Remember, this is the new doctor, Dr. M., the doctor I switched to after my last MC b/c my last doctor, Dr. B., though she had great bedside manners, kept referring me out to other doctors to perform the complicated procedures of D&C HSG and hysteroscopy. It was getting to be a bit of a nuisance, having to bounce back and forth, so I finally stuck with the doctor she kept referring me to. So Dr. M was the one who diagnosed my septum and fixed it. He is also the doctor I saw for my last u/s appointment.

However, I felt really rushed at my last appointment (and part of it is likely due to my own flabbergasted-ness when we saw that heartbeat), so I didn't get to spend as much time as I would have preferred and asked all of the questions I had. And, I feel uncomfortable with the way he advised me not to take this trip in 2 weeks. He advised against it only because he didn't want me to feel guilty should something happen, based on my history. I admit, my chagrin to his advice could be partially my fault, because I did want his blessings before I traipsed off to NYC...but still, he could have been a little more sensitive about his response and discussed his concerns (if any, which I dont really think there were any real health concerns for him) with me, before flat out saying no.

Lastly, I'm disenfranchised because I wrote him an email after the appointment, asking him a few questions that I wasn't able to ask him during the appointment. One of the questions I asked was whethere there were any big "do's" and "dont's" for me. He mentioned several things I already knew, but he also stated "normally intercourse is ok, but due to my history, he would advise against it." Ummmmm, hellloooooooooooooo, no sex????? WTH? No explanation....nothing. And I didn't even ask about that. I'm not a sex-fiend or anything, but what, are we not supposed to have sex for 9 months? And about "my history" I did not miscarry because I had sex....I miscarried because I had a septum. And I've had tons of s-e-x during this pregnancy and look, we saw the heartbeat just fine. I just dont get it....why would he advise me not to have intercourse if I had no cause for concern about sex before? I have not even spotted after intercourse before...and it's not like we get all wild and crazy (I know, TMI.)

So basically, doc is telling me not to travel (for no real health reason other than for peace of mind, if something should happen) and not to have sex (probably for the same reasons). I dont think I'm going to follow his advice. I dont think he's right at all. I know he's just looking out for my best interests, but I really feel that he doesn't know my body like I do and that I can make a decision about these things independently. I'm grateful for his advice, and I realize that he is the doctor, and i'm the patient and that he's saying these things for my own good, but I'm just a little disenfranchised with it......Maybe I'll switch back to Dr. B after the first tri-mester? I wonder if doctors get offended by that kinda stuff?

I know what I'll do, I'll pray about all of this...God will show me the way.