or the travel bug?
Dont get me wrong, I love being a mommy and the trade offs are WELL worth it. But I have a feeling of discontentment, or actually the case of the travel bug. Each year that the hubsters and I have been together, we've taken a big trip somewhere to the mainland or out of the country. This year, 2010, will be the first year in our almost 6 years together (almost 3 of them married) that we dont take a trip (assuming we dont travel sometime towards the end of the year, which is likely b/c we haven't planned one).
I really want to travel and we've had a few temptations to take one this year, but each time we really get down to planning the trip, we realize that traveling with an infant will be tough, difficult, and down right, potentially, not worth it. For instance, here in Hawaii, a trip to las vegas is almost an annualthing, especially for the older generation b/c prices and packages from here to vegas are soooo low. In fact, Vegas has been commonly referred to as the "9th island" here in Hawaii. DH and I though about going there instead of having a huge birthday party for Kaua, but then I realized, that with Kaua, we wouldn't be able to do much of the activites that attracts us to Vegas; like go in a casino, drink (very much), or watch shows.
We thought about going somewhere to watch a professional foot ball game (another one of our many wishlist items of things to do in our life which has yet to be crossed off), but then we realized, we couldn't really focus on and enjoy the game with an infant. Plus Kaua probably would freak out with all that noise and people around. Other fans would think we're crazy for bringing an infant to a game.
We could opt for a babysitter duriing one of these trips (I wouldn't dream of leaving Kaua alone here in Hawaii by himself), but truthfully, I'd feel awful leaving him with someone he wasn't comfortable with. My mom has offered her baby sitting services if we paid for her airfare, and while this seems like an expensive alternative, it may be the only alternative. But who wants to go on their first family trip with their mom in tow? Some thoughts on that are, maybe she could come for part of the trip? Offering her babysitting services so we can do the adult things we'd like, and then leaving us alone for the chance at some alone family time. As I type my thoughts out, this seems like the smart way to go....Another idea is simply take a very kid friendly trip...but where to go? What to do?
The point of this post is, while I yearned and yearned and yearned to be a mom, I now realize why people who are parents warn others to take their trips and spend time alone as a married couple, because once a child comes around, things are very different. Parenthood is really a sacrifice of self and as someone who has been living with numero uno in mind first (and my DH first as well), its been quite a sobering adjustment to now put myself second. But as I said in the beginning....this little guy is worth it!
Where would you go for a infant/young family vacation?
This is so true! Half the time I just find myself saying " Its not worth it" It is one part of pre mommyhood i wish i could do is travel more and do more with hubby since now its not so easy!
ReplyDeleteI def recommend NOT VEGAS!!!! Specially wih baby...there is jus smoke every where and even though he won't remember the trip its def not A kid place what so ever...mayb older kids circus circus ( although that is pretty nasty now too)
I would say ... being in HI way not do one of those like staycations drive a couple hrs and take a weekend trip not to much stress no grandparents just the 3 ya'll
OMG this is constant conversation here in my house. We sooo want to go somewhere for vacation. We usually go on a cruise, but really, I like to drink, stay up late, party and go on fun excusions. We can't do that with a baby. :( We finally settled on the beach(lol, you already live near the beach!). It seemed easiest. I miss being able to go on adult vacations.
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